So, after admitting that I don’t know who I think I am, but I do know who I think I might like to be I decided to distil my hopes for the next year into a manageable To Do list. Then I decided to also think about why I want these things and how exactly I will get them.
|What do you want?||Why do you want it?||How will you get it?|
|Be more confident, calm, improve self-esteem.||I will be happier. My daughters will be happier.||Self-hypnosis MP3Country walks.|
|Healthier body||Live longer.||Yoga, running, swimming|
|Healthier diet||Live longer.||Eat more fruit, drink more water|
|Publish a book||Achieve a life-long dream!||Schedule regular writing time|
My list was longer but you get the idea. You could make one of these too. A good way to think about column 2, ‘Why do you want it?’ is to play a little game with yourself called, Why is that important?
More than a To Do list, I guess I would call this an Action Plan. It’s not better than a bucket list* really, it’s just different. This is my plan for Right Now. But making a bucket list at some point would be fun too!
I’ve already been working on these things, bit by bit, since I completed the exercises in my own e-course: How to get what you want, and want what you get. (It’s free.) I even made myself a reward chart to remind myself of why I’m doing these things. There’s no time-scale or pressure but I just give myself a gold star whenever I take action towards my goals. You could use an online tool like Joe’s Goals to do something similar.
But I like a printed one, stuck on the kitchen door that reminds me each day how well I am doing. It’s got a column for activities, a column for stars and a column for rewards. I just copied the rewards from my ‘What do you want?’ column above!
I drew it by hand on a piece of A4. It only took me 5 minutes. Are you going to make one?
*Things to do before you “kick the bucket”.