Warning: This idea could make you happy

Patient AcceptanceThey say that life begins at 40 and recently I realised that perhaps it’s because by the time you’re 40 you’ve known at least one or two people who have died too young. You get to a certain age and realise that not everyone enjoys the privilege of growing old. So maybe that’s why in their 40’s some people have a good go at making their dreams come true.

Yesterday I had a perfect day. I didn’t know it was going to be perfect but I did hope that it would be good. I started the day by sticking a post-it note on the bathroom mirror that said, ‘I love you.’ The second one says, ‘How can I make you happy today?’ (These are ideas from You Can Heal Your Life by Louise Hay.) It made me cringe to do it and it makes me cringe to write it, because I’m embarrassed by the thought of such airy-fairy new age love-yourself stuff. After all, most people think that kind of thing doesn’t work, right?

But the reason I’m sharing it here is because I think that little thing made a difference that day.

Admittedly I already had quite a nice day planned. Let me tell you what I did yesterday.

  • I began the day with a mindful meditation. (Never tried this before.)
  • I had a pub lunch with an old friend. We took her kids and my kids – most of them were dressed as pirates! We all laughed and had fun.
  • I treated myself to a massage and manicure as a late birthday present to myself.
  • I decided to start painting again and bought some watercolours and a sketchpad.
  • I spontaneously bought myself a colourful bunch of flowers.
  • When I got home I listened to Perfect Day by Lou Reed, whilst cooking myself one of my favourite meals. I had some glasses of my favourite wine.
  • I watched On the Road [DVD] something I’ve been meaning to do for ages. (I love the book.)

Why am I sharing this with you? Because strangely it was a new idea to me to organise a perfect day for myself. It happened almost by accident, but just asking myself that question in the morning, ‘What can I do to make you happy today?’ made me think about the answer. I was lucky enough to be in a position to give myself things that made me happy. I’ve spent a lot of my life wishing that others would make me happy. This day I experimented with being my own best friend. I wouldn’t say that I loved myself yet, but this was quite a successful first date. I might even agree to see me again…

Stick that question on your mirror tomorrow and see what you surprise yourself with!

Flowers, for me? From me? Thank you!

Flowers, for me? From me? Thank you!

Reasons to be cheerful #R2BC

if you want it I do love Michelle’s blog link-up (affectionately known as a ‘linky’) which is all about being grateful. For November it is being hosted by Becky at Lake’s Single Mum.

I really want to focus on appreciating the good things in life this month, so on Tuesday I went to my first Buddhist meditation class, which had the theme ‘Grateful Feels Good.’

Here are my reasons to be cheerful this week.

1) I tried meditation and I liked it. Gently guided by a Buddhist monk I breathed in golden light and breathed out dark smoke. Random thoughts rose to the surface and burst like bubbles in a drink. I listened to the idea of moving away from cherishing the self, and instead cherishing others.

“Put yourself slightly off-centre. Put others at the centre instead, then you will actually feel happiness and peace.”

2) My house. After 13 years of narrowboat life I now very much appreciate living in a cosy cottage with central heating. I have discovered microwave cooking and relaxing bubble baths. I adore my new washing machine. Turns out 21st century life has a lot going for it.

3) My daughters. My youngest baby turned four years old this week. We celebrated with cake, jelly and balloons. My daughters teach me to be joyful every day.

What is making you cheerful right now?

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Is it time to reinvent yourself?

Be true to the self.Positive thinking must always be followed by positive action. I use visualisation, inspiring quotations, lyrics, music, poetry, written exercises and self-hypnosis to reinvent myself and make things happen.