They say that life begins at 40 and recently I realised that perhaps it’s because by the time you’re 40 you’ve known at least one or two people who have died too young. You get to a certain age and realise that not everyone enjoys the privilege of growing old. So maybe that’s why in their 40’s some people have a good go at making their dreams come true.
Yesterday I had a perfect day. I didn’t know it was going to be perfect but I did hope that it would be good. I started the day by sticking a post-it note on the bathroom mirror that said, ‘I love you.’ The second one says, ‘How can I make you happy today?’ (These are ideas from You Can Heal Your Life by Louise Hay.) It made me cringe to do it and it makes me cringe to write it, because I’m embarrassed by the thought of such airy-fairy new age love-yourself stuff. After all, most people think that kind of thing doesn’t work, right?
But the reason I’m sharing it here is because I think that little thing made a difference that day.
Admittedly I already had quite a nice day planned. Let me tell you what I did yesterday.
- I began the day with a mindful meditation. (Never tried this before.)
- I had a pub lunch with an old friend. We took her kids and my kids – most of them were dressed as pirates! We all laughed and had fun.
- I treated myself to a massage and manicure as a late birthday present to myself.
- I decided to start painting again and bought some watercolours and a sketchpad.
- I spontaneously bought myself a colourful bunch of flowers.
- When I got home I listened to Perfect Day by Lou Reed, whilst cooking myself one of my favourite meals. I had some glasses of my favourite wine.
- I watched On the Road [DVD] something I’ve been meaning to do for ages. (I love the book.)
Why am I sharing this with you? Because strangely it was a new idea to me to organise a perfect day for myself. It happened almost by accident, but just asking myself that question in the morning, ‘What can I do to make you happy today?’ made me think about the answer. I was lucky enough to be in a position to give myself things that made me happy. I’ve spent a lot of my life wishing that others would make me happy. This day I experimented with being my own best friend. I wouldn’t say that I loved myself yet, but this was quite a successful first date. I might even agree to see me again…
Stick that question on your mirror tomorrow and see what you surprise yourself with!
Flowers, for me? From me? Thank you!
Have you discovered Buddha Doodles yet? Mollycules is a “spunky cartoonist with an appreciation for spirituality.” Her doodles appear regularly on the Huffington Post and Tiny Buddha.com. At Molly’s website you can signup to get free Buddha Doodles delivered to your inbox.
As well as publishing books of Buddha Doodles she’s also created two gratitude journals. This is something I may treat myself to I think. Sometimes I write a daily list of things that I’ve enjoyed or things that I’m grateful for, but it’s a habit that I don’t always remember to keep up. I think that if I placed a gratitude journal beside my bed then perhaps that would serve as a reminder to write three things in it every night.
Keeping a gratitude journal may reduce stress and negative emotions, increase happiness and improve the quality of your sleep. Each page of Molly’s gratitude journal displays a different cartoon and a page to write what you are grateful for. On the Amazon website you can peep inside the book and see some of the beautiful drawings.
Buddha Doodles Gratitude Journal: Shining Your Light
I am quite thankful that I discovered Buddha Doodles! What are you grateful for today?
Disclosure: The link is an Amazon affiliate link.
This month I’ve been practicing ‘letting go’ and one of those most important things I’ve noticed was that I need to let go of the idea of being my ‘best self’ all of the time. Holding on to that idea doesn’t allow me to make mistakes, or to learn from my mistakes.
I drew a cartoon to visualise this idea for myself and then ironically I wanted to re-draw it and improve it before publishing it on this blog. I thought that the cartoon wasn’t good enough. I could see that I’d made some mistakes! I’ve written outside of the lines and drawn the body the wrong shape. But if I wait for the time to make my pictures perfect there may never be any pictures on this blog. (I learned this from Leonie Dawson’s Wild Donkey Secret to Getting Stuff Done.)
So today I am letting go of the idea that I’m going to be my ‘Best Self’ all of the time. Can you accept that you’re a person who makes mistakes? What idea could you let go of, just for today?
Accepting that I am a person who makes mistakes.
That’s the kind of headline that draws me in with an urgency. I must stop whatever work I am doing and immediately absorb this one essential piece of information that is going to make such a huge difference to my online business success.
Not today though.
This week I am focussing on letting go of distractions, with Leo Babauta’s Sea Change Program.
But before I began work this morning I instead became distracted and drew two cartoons.
Greed for online info
Internet distractions cannot attract me!
There’s so much that I want to do. I’ve got an exciting To Do list that’s all about creating things for my new business; written stuff, videos and artwork. Plus my own personal development stuff – things that I’m reading, things that I’m learning…
I recently went on some kind of ‘money mindset’ webinar and learned that my entrepreneur ‘type’ is dynamite! I’m creative and have tons of ideas, but now I need to organise my time. I wonder if I could do drawing and painting in the evenings, listening to music instead of watching telly?
I’ve read that I must commit to my dream: The dream that is my new reinvented life and reinvented business. But as of yet my dream is vague… How can my gifts help other people? Should I create motivational artwork, goal setting calendars and worksheets? I’ve only got a fuzzy idea of where I’m going with this; and yet I’ve written an e-course on goal setting. I suppose I just have to do my own e-course so that I can fine-tune my direction!
The weird thing is that I’m creating the journey that I myself need to go on; I’m creating the courses that I need! I keep surfing the internet like a magpie seeing shiny courses that I want to take… Courses about blogging, being creative, becoming an entrepreneur, online marketing, meditations for confidence, webinars about how to run an online business, and how to have a healthier money mindset. I discover inspiring online entrepreneurs and I want to buy their programs, yet something holds me back. Oh yes – the people selling the courses are saying I’m hesitating to invest in myself… But I can’t help thinking that deep inside somewhere I KNOW this stuff already! I’ve read a lot of books and done a lot of courses and you can keep learning forever without taking action.
I’ve already written the content for at least three e-courses. I love writing! But the next big step is to create the videos.
That is what is holding me back.
Sitting in front of a camera is scary and not as much fun as writing.
What is holding you back? Could you challenge yourself to do something that you’re afraid of?
Brave Me meets Scared Me